May 2015 - Thoughts for Mother's Day
Thoughts on Motherhood -
The setting for this fun photo shoot was at Josh and Kerin's farm.
Bowties, hats and suspenders are not something the men would normally
wear!...but they obliged me for this shoot. :) I guess you might call it
a 'styled' shoot with 'props?' It was something a little different for
this year's family photos, hope you enjoy!
Gender is certainly getting lots of attention these days!
Especially with the coming out of one very famous person in the
recent week! I will not comment on this particular very public
gender story, but I did want to share my 'gender' story.
follows are some of my own thoughts as next Sunday we set aside time
to honor and celebrate the 'mother gender' who gave each of us a
safe womb to grow in until we were big enough to enter the world.
And then took upon herself the mantle or yoke of loving and feeding
and teaching and training and protecting and finally releasing us
I was raised by a mother who wanted more for me than she had
herself. She was not sent to college and got married fairly young.
She had just 2 children and I think probably wished that she could
have had a career before having us. And she quite amazingly
fulfilled that career dream after raising us and sending us both to
college, starting when she was 48 by going back to school and
becoming a pastor, being ordained when she was about 50. From that
point on, she had full time work until she retired. She was an
amazing woman and I tear up thinking of her accomplishments, service
to God and to others, and the great Mom she was to me and my
brother. She did it all I guess. But although she excelled at
being a wonderful mother and wife, she wanted me to be more
independent and to
have a career, and not get married until I was
older, to do things differently than was her lot. So off I went to
get my college degree and become a nurse. I had a 'career' first as
a nurse, then as a campus staff member with a Christian ministry. But,
I got pregnant soon after marriage, throwing me into the world of
motherhood. I tried to do my mothering job well, but still felt my
first calling was to be a campus minister alongside my husband. So
much effort was placed in hiring babysitters so I could go on campus
and do the 'real' work. I remember a day I was working on a talk I
was to give and it was not a good day for my son. He needed me.
All day he seemed to want to sit in my lap. Which didn't work too
well with my plans for my day. I remember praying and talking to
God about it, saying 'God I have so much to do! And it is all for
You! When I get to heaven I want you to be happy with all the
work I have done for you!' And I felt His response to me, as if He
was gently speaking to me, saying, 'You can show me all your
ministry, but I will ask you, what about your son? What did you do
with the first ministry I appointed to you?'
Something changed in my heart at that point. And when I started my
homeschooling journey, (after my first son had an unsuccessful year
in a private kindergarten,) that pretty much used up any time I might have had to pursue other things. So from then on, my life was
poured out for my family in many many
ways. It was hard! It was
24-7! And I never did it as well as I wanted to. But in the end,
looking back, there really is no career for me that could compare to
the privilege of being a mother. And the privilege continues now
that I have the chance to be a part of my Grandchildren's lives as
well! And although there is no official 'pay' for the many things I
did as a Mother and even now as a Grandmother, I am very fortunate
that my husband values what I do and is happy for me to continue to
be the one who cares and serves and is the pulse in our family,
serving in ministry alongside him as his life partner often in
behind the scenes ways that he could not function without.
So, although at times I felt small next to other mothers or women
with outside the home careers, even big ministry careers that
influenced lots of people, I would never have been satisfied or felt
about delegating the teaching and training of my children to
someone else, so that I could have a paying career. Whether
acknowledged by society as important or not, being a mother was a
full time 'career' that for me leaves other careers hollow.
Looking back, everything pales next to the privilege I have had of being a part of
shaping, training and
releasing several members of the next
generation in this way. This was actually not 'my' plan or even something I could have imagined as I felt pretty ill equipped for the task. But as it unfolded for me it became clear to me over time, and especially clear looking back, that it was God's best plan for me.
Josh and Kerin and all 6 of their children in front of
But yet, each must find their own way. And just because it has been
true for me, doesn't necessarily mean it is true for all. And I
realize that! Some reading this might think me odd or worse. If I had read this when I was younger I might have though it odd too! Yet God is the one who writes our stories and I just hope I can be one grateful voice who doesn't wish I could have been 'emancipated' from childbearing and child-rearing and even
helping with grandchild-rearing, like it is only a menial and lowly
calling. Am I allowed to say that in today's world? I hope so. I almost feel that admitting this takes almost as much boldness and fear of criticism as the person I referred to in the beginning of this letter! But if you are reading this and have a similar heart, be encouraged
as you journey on. And may these scriptures remind you of Who made
you and Who designed your calling. Thank you and keep on!!!
Verses from Mark...
Whoever wants to be first must take last place and be the servant of
Then he put a little child among them. Taking the child in his
arms, he said to them, Anyone who welcomes a little child like this
on my behalf welcomes me, and anyone who welcomes me welcomes not
only me but also my Father who sent me.
But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall
into sin, it would be better for you to be thrown into the sea with
a large millstone hung around your neck.
You must have the qualities of salt among yourselves and live in
peace with each other.
He wrote this commandment only as a concession to your hard hearts.
But God made them male and female from the beginning of creation.
This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined
to his wife, and the two are united into one. Since they are no
longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined
Let the children come to me, Don't stop them! For the Kingdom of God
belongs to those who are like these children. I tell you the truth,
anyone who doesn't receive the Kingdom of God like a child, will
never enter it. Then he took the children in his arms and placed
his hands on their heads and blessed them.
The disciples were astounded. Who then in the world can be
saved?...Humanly speaking it is impossible, but not with God.
Everything is possible with God.
But many who are the greatest now will be least important then, and
those who seem least important now will be the greatest then.Aaron and Christina and EzraGreat news: We are happy that Aaron and Christina are expecting a
girl, due in August. :) Our eighth grandchild! Pray for the final
months of Christina's pregnancy, an easy VBAC birth, and for healthy Mom
From our family to yours, we hope you have a wonderful time this coming
Sunday celebrating and honoring the mothers in your lives!
Happy Mother's Day to all!~ Linda for the Bealls
Photos by: Susan Schmidt Photography
PS...this makes my heart glad, music is like medicine to my soul, and to be able to help my grandchildren learn to play the violin gives me huge amounts of joy!
Sarah works with them on piano too.
Wonder what this will look like in a decade or so if they all stick with it?
Ezra is only 22 months but already is very serious about wanting to try. :)
Three generations...me with my daughter, two amazing daughters-in-law, and all five granddaughters. :)
Three generations of the Beall men...Bernie with all three sons, and two grandsons. :)